Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Idol Worship



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Can Marriage Last?

If I'm not happy, I mean, chronically, mistreated, put down, mad fun of, and yelled at... can I still stay married? Click on the picture below.

Monday, September 9, 2013

The Power of Listening



‘LISTEN’
When I ask you to listen to me
And you start giving me advice,
You have not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen to me
And you begin to tell me ‘why’ I shouldn’t feel that way,
You are trampling on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me
And you feel you have to do something to
solve my problems,
You have failed me, strange as that may seem.

Listen! All I ask is that you listen;
Not talk, nor do – just hear me.
And I can do for myself – I’m not helpless
Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless.

When you do something for me, that I can
and need to do for myself,
You contribute to my fear and weakness.
But when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel,
No matter how irrational
Then I quit trying to convince you
And can get about the business of understanding
What’s behind this irrational feeling.

When that’s clear,
The answers are obvious and I don’t need advice.
Irrational feelings make sense when we
Understand what’s behind them.
Perhaps that’s why prayer works sometimes for
some people;
because God is mute, and doesn’t give
advice to try to ‘fix’ things,
He/She just listens, and lets you work it out
for yourself. (And helps you to work it out through His wisdom.)

So please listen, and just hear me, and if you
want to talk,
Wait a minute for your turn,
And I’ll listen to you.
Anon
This poem was written by a mental health consumer who was institutionalised over a number of years in Queensland. He wishes to remain anonymous.

Wednesday, September 4, 2013

It's More than Just a Talk, it's a Conversation!

Teaching our kids about God's design for sex is one of the most essential lessons we can teach our children as they are growing up. Be brave and courageous and don't let your past keep you from applying God's truth, with conviction, to your children. That's not hypocrisy, that is wise parenting... to save them from so much regret!

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Wednesday, August 21, 2013

A What? A Budget?

4 Tips to Conquer the Zero-Based Budget

4 Tips to Help Members Conquer the Zero-Based Budget
Ah, the zero-based budget. Like tackling any new skill, it can feel totally overwhelming at first. Of course, we know—and you know—that if we give ourselves time to master it, the zero-based budget becomes almost second nature. And then, it’s no longer a burden but a total blessing.
Unfortunately, some members give up on the zero-based budget before it reaches the blessed, second-nature state. That’s too bad, really.
Because we’ve found that the zero-based budget is where it’s at when it comes to winning with money. Not budgeting at all is bound to produce problems, and a basic budget may produce results, but it’s the zero-based budget that gets things done!
It’s not just theory either—we’ve got numbers to back it up. In a nationwide survey of Financial Peace University (FPU) class graduates, we discovered that people who do a zero-based budget (versus those who don’t) pay off 19% more debt and save 18% more money!
That’s why we made the zero-based budget a big focus of the nine-week FPU. If you haven’t seen the new version yet, we think you’lld be pleasantly surprised to find that Dave talks about the zero-based budget in every lesson. Each week, members are asked to dive back in to their budgets. This way, they learn the why and how of zero-based budgeting long before they ever leave your leadership.
So, encourage your class to keep working the zero-based budget. Share the numbers above as a practical reason to continue. Then, share the tips below to help avoid setbacks.
  1. Every single dollar needs a name.

    Sure, Dave says this in FPU, and you’ve likely repeated it to your class often. But here’s where many members get tripped up: the leftovers. They’ve covered every bill and all categories that might require money during the month ahead. But they’ve still got $120 left over. It seems like a victory!
    Unfortunately, leftover money provides a false sense of security and allows members to not really stick to their budget after all. That $120 needs a name. Even if it goes in a “spend as you please” category, it needs a name. Maybe it can go toward the emergency fund, Christmas savings, or extra vacation spending. We don’t really care what you do with it as long as you plan to do something with it before the month begins.
  2. Just because every dollar gets a name, that doesn’t mean you have to spend it all this month.

    Some zero-based budget newbies assume that planning your spending before the month begins means you have to spend it all before the month ends. This is not so! You can plan ahead for as little as one month or for as long as a year—or more!
    Remind your class that they’ll need to think of large, irregular purchases in addition to small, monthly purchases when planning their budget. If car-repair savings or your clothing envelope gets bigger each month, that’s a good thing. You’ll eventually need that money and will no doubt be glad it’s there. So don’t sweat it!
  3. Track any budget mishaps as you go through the month and correct accordingly.

    Do your members find themselves at the checkout counter, ready to pay for an item, but they have no envelope to pull that money from? These no-man’s-land purchases can feel pretty discouraging. That’s why Dave says it takes a good three months to get a handle on the budget.
    Encourage your class to simply write down any budget mistakes that show up and correct them at the next month’s budget committee meeting. If the mistake is a pretty dire one, they can always call an emergency meeting with their spouse or accountability partner to make sure everything is covered and that it all leads back to zero.
  4. Consult Dave’s Complete Guide to Budgeting.

    What more could your class want than a free, downloadable PDF on all things zero-based budgeting? The Complete Guide to Budgeting is the perfect resource for answers to questions on the envelope system, irregular income, budget mistakes and so much more!

Monday, July 15, 2013

Busy is a Drug

 













We live in a world that is so rushed, so busy, so jam packed with everything that we can fit into it. I wonder, in our super busy lives, do we actually have time for what is most important, most life-giving, most essential to both now and eternity?

I am so guilty of this. God’s word says, “Be still and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10a

I believe we have busy-ed ourselves out of a vital relationship with God and, as a result, we have done the same with our families, friends, and truly real connection with others. In fact, I would argue that we have busy-ed our spiritual lives almost to death. What is it that is absolutely essential to the vitality of our faith in Jesus Christ, our families, our marriages (if we are married), and more? I believe the answer is time. Time to be with God in prayer, study, worship, service, listening, and more. Time to be with our children, if we are married, our spouses, and time to be with family and friends, and time to share our faith with others. These are some of the most important parts of life. What would I, what would you be willing to adjust, give up, change in order to de-clutter and refocus our lives?

God hasn’t called us to sit around and do nothing but I genuinely believe that isn’t our problem in our culture. We run from place to place to place and can unwittingly kill the relationships in our lives.

It’s time that we reevaluated, that I reevaluate. What does God want each of us to invest in? What does God want us to do? How can we de-busy and refocus our lives on God?

It won’t make life easier but it will make it God’s, and only with God can we each individually and together become all we were created to be. WOW!